In order to grow, you have to find people who encourage you to reach for more.
It’s very easy to feel “small” as you intentionally level up. But that’s the point.
You’re going to have to learn to get over this feeling and forcefully inject yourself into circles with people who make you feel like you’re a behind the curve. The further behind, the better.
Find smart, ambitious, positive people with a creative outlook on life and use their energy like a metaphorical fire to heat yourself up. Don’t be afraid of exposing yourself to the powerful energy of somebody who is excited about living life.
I know that sometimes being around all that light can feel like staring at the sun.
Seek those people out and don’t settle.
Here are a few ways you can feel more comfortable with leveling up your circle of friends:
- Intentionally engage in unique experiences. That way, you’ll always have something interesting to exchange in conversation. Go skydiving. Take that trip to Marrakech. Make a mixtape or a short film.
- Read more. I’m talking a lot more. Force yourself to get smarter. Try to read books with a diverse set of views. This will make you more open minded and understanding of how others think. And everybody will appreciate your ability to see things from their perspective, trust me.
- Develop a creative skill and work towards mastery. Make friends with people who are pursuing mastery of the same thing. It’s easier to build bonds with people who understand what you’re going through. So, put yourself through something difficult and find others on the path.
This is how you find interesting, encouraging, successful friends who will improve your life.
Just remember, if you want to find friends who change your life, you have to change theirs, too.