How to train your mind to see the good in every situation

Remember that ridiculously cheery, borderline creepy scene from Mary Poppins where the children (rightfully so) complain about having to clean up their room?

(If you weren’t forced to watch that movie in kindergarten like every other normal child on earth, the entire song the ensues revolves around a “spoonful of sugar.”)

I was never a huge fan of the film — but I could always relate to the kids in that scene.

Why?

Cleaning sucks.

Doing things that you don’t like sucks.

But looking back, I have to admit….maybe Poppins (despite being quite syrupy) was on to something.

Right before breaking into song, she declares:

“In every job that must be done, there’s an element of fun. You find the fun, and SNAP, the job’s a game.”

Hmm. Let’s unpack that for a minute.

We assume that by its very nature, a job isn’t meant to be fun. That’s why it’s called a J-O-B.

But what if a simple mental could snap you out of boredom, lethargy and negativity — and make you excited, happy and motivated?

The key? You have to train your mind to see the good in every situation. Even situations that initially seem negative.

Here are 3 ways to start training your mind to see the good in every situation:

#1: Realize that success takes time — and it’s totally OK to be bored in the process

Something weird happens in our brains when we’re bored with our goals.

First, we experience the irritating feeling of listlessness — which is uncomfortable in and of itself.

But that feeling of listlessness is usually followed by aggravation.

We’re bored with our lives. Then we get mad at ourselves for getting bored. Then we get we try to think of a way to get un-bored, and the only thing we can think of doing are the things that bored us in the first place.

Kill me now!

Try this mental reframe: From now on, I want you to begin viewing boredom not as a sign of stagnation, but as a sign of consistent, steady progress.

As long as you’re doing the little things that you need to do every single day in order to succeed, then success is inevitable. It’s ok to be bored from Point A to Point B.

Just don’t stop.

#2: Create a system to start tracking your progress

Sometimes, the biggest reason why we fail to see the good in everyday situations is because we lose perspective on how far we’ve come. You’re missing the forest for the trees.

Remember coming back from summer vacation and seeing the people who’d grown six inches? You didn’t see them for months — so their growth was quite apparent. But to them, the growth probably didn’t feel noticeable.

Point being, you have to start taking notice of the little, day-to-day improvements that you make. Over time, this will allow you to see how far you’ve come, and it will give you a reference point for where you want to go.

One method to track these improvements The Seinfeld Solution, which some of the world’s best thinkers use to make consistent progress.

Using a system like this will slowly train your mind to start thinking more positively about the little wins you have on a daily basis.

#3: Remember that you can still make it — even when others discourage you

It’s hard to pursue your dreams when your family, friends and coworkers don’t believe in you. It feels good to have people that you care about support your vision.

But whenever someone tells you that you can’t do something, that a goal is “impossible” or downright laughs in your face, don’t get frustrated.

Instead, train your mind to see their disbelief as a challenge.

Instead of saying, “They’re probably right. I can’t do it” — train yourself to think, “Ok. Now, I’ll SHOW you what I can do.”

Every time someone disparages you in an opportunity to show them how strong your vision is.

Turn their negative energy into your rocket fuel and blast off.

 I dig deeper into developing mental toughness in my book Rich20Something, you can grab it here. 
Daniel DiPiazza
@Rich20Something

Daniel is the founder and CEO of Rich20Something. A millennial business mastermind, he has successfully started three consecutive freelance businesses and scaled them to over $100K in revenue with zero startup capital. His work is regularly featured in Time Magazine, Fortune, Entrepreneur, Business Insider, Fox News, and Yahoo! Business. His debut book, Rich20Something, publishes on May 2, 2017.

  • This resonated with me. In the past, I hadn’t been good about keeping track of how far I’ve come so I get bored and then feel like things are taking too long. I’m trying to set up some systems/routines to record the small wins so I can show myself that I’m making progress. And I agree with the third tip – the reason I set up some of those routines is because it helps me show myself and others that I’m making progress to doing what they didn’t think was possible.

  • I’m trying to set up some systems/routines to record the small wins so I
    can show myself that I’m making progress. And I agree with the third
    tip – the reason I set up some of those routines is because it helps me
    show myself and others that I’m making progress to doing what they
    didn’t think was possible.

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