Interesting. I think people just grow on each other, and "office hot" starts to become "damn, I'm in this place all the time, maybe she really is hot". I can see how it happens, especially if there is unintentional flirting
What do you think: Sex at work?
Just a quick diversion from our typical deep-dive content on strategy and psychology:
Have you ever had a sexual relationship…or “fling” with a co-worker?
I’m not going to get too detailed about my experiences because my mom reads these emails (hi mom) - but I’ve always thought the dynamics were interesting.
I was never really sure how common the practice was - but last week, I read an article in Businessweek. The author said something that blew my mind:
After I once spoke about this topic at the Bar Association in New York, a partner at a big law firm came up afterward to say that his firm had taken out the security cameras in its stairwells. “We picked up so much sexual activity on the cameras, after midnight, that it was a liability to have the videotape in our possession,” he explained.
Holy shit. That sounds crazy to me.
Ok, so I’m curious:
1.) Have you ever had a sexual relationship with a coworker?
2.) How long did it last - are you still dating?
3.) Did you get in trouble with your employer?
This is the type of stuff I think about all day while you’re being productive.
“I wonder how many of my readers are having sex with each other right now?”
What’s wrong with me?
Seriously, though. Let me know in the comments below.
- Daniel
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I have a habit of getting romantically involved with coworkers. It started when I was a lifeguard in high school, and then with another girl in my summer internship program. Then when I worked at Deloitte I dated another girl who started at the firm at the same time. We dated for over a year, and it was pretty serious. The firm never had a problem with us dating because we worked on different projects and rarely interacted in work settings. However, after we broke up it definitely had a negative impact on my work, and I got pretty burnt out. By the time I finished grad school I was ready to leave the firm (and the memories of the ex-girlfriend) to embark on my next endeavor to run Waveborn full-time.
Most recently, I went up to Villanova to speak at a summer camp for Wave Week hosted by Spark the Wave, a non-profit focused on educating high school students about leadership and community and service. There was a very cute girl who works for Spark the Wave who greeted me when I got there. We hit it off and have been on a couple dates since then. While she doesn't technically work for the same company, we did meet in a work setting. I think part of the recurring theme is that I'm just so charming that when women spend a lot of time working with me, things start to heat up...
@mwmalloy Ha - I totally agree. I think when we start to identify with a workplace, and a romantic interest is PART of that workplace, it's easier to fall harder than we might normally.
When's the next date?
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Never participated myself. But my current place of work is strict about it. Heard of some loosing their job over it. Mainly when it is a manager/employee relation
@Hurky Interesting. Is there a specific guideline or handbook that prohibits it...or is it just generally taboo/an unspoken rule?
I also think another big factor in workplace attraction is that you're just around these people SO much. If we end up on a desert island together, even if I don't like you at first....after a few years, somebody is bound to get pregnant.
Maybe there's comfort in familiarity?
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I also think another big factor in workplace attraction is that you’re just around these people SO much. If we end up on a desert island together, even if I don’t like you at first….after a few years, somebody is bound to get pregnant.
Maybe there’s comfort in familiarity?
Never participated myself. But my current place of work is strict about it. Heard of some loosing their job over it. Mainly when it is a manager/employee relation
Hurky Interesting. Is there a specific guideline or handbook that prohibits it…or is it just generally taboo/an unspoken rule?
I have a habit of getting romantically involved with coworkers. It started when I was a lifeguard in high school, and then with another girl in my summer internship program. Then when I worked at Deloitte I dated another girl who started at the firm at the same time. We dated for over a year, and it was pretty serious. The firm never had a problem with us dating because we worked on different projects and rarely interacted in work settings. However, after we broke up it definitely had a negative impact on my work, and I got pretty burnt out. By the time I finished grad school I was ready to leave the firm (and the memories of the ex-girlfriend) to embark on my next endeavor to run Waveborn full-time.
Most recently, I went up to Villanova to speak at a summer camp for Wave Week hosted by Spark the Wave, a non-profit focused on educating high school students about leadership and community and service. There was a very cute girl who works for Spark the Wave who greeted me when I got there. We hit it off and have been on a couple dates since then. While she doesn’t technically work for the same company, we did meet in a work setting. I think part of the recurring theme is that I’m just so charming that when women spend a lot of time working with me, things start to heat up…
Interesting. I think people just grow on each other, and “office hot” starts to become “damn, I’m in this place all the time, maybe she really is hot”. I can see how it happens, especially if there is unintentional flirting
mwmalloy Ha - I totally agree. I think when we start to identify with a workplace, and a romantic interest is PART of that workplace, it’s easier to fall harder than we might normally.
When’s the next date?
@Tyson is “office hot” the same thing as “beer goggles”?